I love the blogosphere. So many times I’ve stumbled upon an amazing article, website, or image just by clicking through a link from someone’s blog post. Last week I accidentally (or maybe it was accidentally on purpose?) found Jess Constable’s blog Make Under My Life, and it couldn’t have been more timely. I’m going through a huge transition in my life and trying to figure out what to do next, so the concept of Designing My Own Life is obviously intriguing.
It was so inspiring to read about other people’s intentions, plans, and desires for their ideal life that I couldn’t help getting on board. After a lot of introspection and some deep but honest conversations with myself, I’ve come up with the following intentions for my life.
(Note: this is a long post so please excuse my wordiness, it just wasn’t something I could sum up in a few short sentences)
Work to Completion.
A very wise high school teacher once told me that I’m a fire-starter. He pointed out that I had more ideas than any student in the classroom but I wasn’t seeing them through to completion. I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I still struggle with “fire-starter syndrome”. I usually have more than a handful of projects on the go at the same time, and most often something falls through the cracks and doesn’t get completed. This problem is evident in the bins of unfinished sewing projects, half done paintings, and almost finished blog posts stored around my home and on my computer.
Why don’t I finish what I start? To be honest, I’m not sure. Sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes I don’t think my work is good enough, and sometimes I’m afraid of being judged. But not anymore, I intend to see my work through to completion from now on. The first step is completing this blog post which has been patiently waiting in draft form for almost a week now.
I’m creative, energetic, fun-loving, and a little quirky, but I have really hard time showing that off. For some unknown reason I’ve always felt that I need to put up a front, never letting people see the real me. It’s something I’ve done since I was a teenager to fit in and feel accepted. It’s always been easier to be the person people wanted me to be rather than being myself.
There is a Oprah Winfrey quote on my vision board that says; “your life’s journey is about becoming more of who you are” and that is exactly what I intend to do. Starting this blog and posting pictures of myself for the whole world to see is really about learning to embrace and celebrate who I really am, my authentic self.
Own My Craft.
For as long as I can remember I have loved two things; art projects and writing. I’ve been crafting with modge podge and hot glue for years, and wrote my first chapter book when I was 9, but I never turned either of my passions into a career. I could blame it on my teachers, my parents, or my friends for not encouraging me but the truth is, I never believed in me.
This one is simple; I’m going to own my craft. I may not be the best artist, my clothing designs may not be fashion week material, and my writing might suck, but it’s mine and I love it. I’m not going to hide my skills anymore, I intend to create beautiful art everyday.
Live Laugh Love.
Almost daily I read inspirational stories about people living their dream lives and wonder why my life isn’t more fulfilling. Are those people luckier than me? Do they have more money than me? Maybe, but more likely they are designing the life they want. I haven’t really taken the time to plan the kind of life that I want before, so I’ve just gotten what the universe served up. After spending an afternoon with my deepest thoughts (and several lattes) I realized that all I really want is to live, love, and laugh everyday.
I have a feeling this one is going to be the hardest for me. I tend to move at such a quick pace that I miss the little details in life. Sometimes I forget how nice it is to sit and listen to my kids giggling (like there doing right now), and how fresh flowers, romantic comedies, hot cocoa, and floral perfumes all make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. This year I intend to live to the fullest, shower love on my family and friends, and laugh daily.
On January 1st I made a resolution to get involved with a charitable organization that helps girls in the third world. There wasn’t a specific plan, or chosen organization, just a desire to make a difference. Unfortunately, on January 2nd life happened, I got busy and never followed through. I don’t have a good excuse for not acting on this intention (or any excuse for that matter), but I’m ready to take action now.
I’m one of four girls from an Indo-Canadian family, and am well aware that if I was conceived in India I may never have had a voice. Even today female infanticide is at epidemic levels throughout the world, and I for one have had enough. I intend to use my voice to speak up for women and girls around the world.
My name is Raj and I’m an addict. I’m addicted to my iPhone, my laptop, and being connected 24/7. I honestly can’t remember the last time that I spent a technology free day, but I know it’s necessary.
Moving forward, I intend to shut down more often and learn to live in the moment. When I’m on the phone, checking my emails, or just “surfing” the net, life is passing me by.
Well that’s it for me, I hope you enjoyed reading my intentions for designing the life I want. I would love to hear your thoughts and some of your intentions for the coming year! Please take a moment to comment.